I see you. You’re in the same clothes you wore last night. Your hair is piled in a messy yet cute bun on top of your head, you’re walking home in the wee hours of the morning, and your head is bent over your phone on the TSM app so people will think you don’t care that they’re judging you. You’re walking quickly and hoping against all odds that you don’t run into someone you know. You’re doing the dreaded walk of shame, aren’t you?
And you really do feel ashamed. But why? Are you actually ashamed that you had sex or is this only shameful because you’ve been taught that you should be ashamed? The last time I checked, sex was one of God’s gifts to humanity and a natural part of the human experience, and there’s nothing wrong with taking part in it. Sex is something we should celebrate. Someone who you found attractive found you attractive, so you rolled around and enjoyed each other as a man and woman are sometimes wont to do. That’s awesome! You should be giggling about your evening, reminiscing about that thing he did, and hurrying home to spill all the juicy deets to your roommates. Tons of girls went home alone last night and had nothing to entertain them but Domino’s and Netflix. But you? You weren’t one of those girls. You were a sexy badass, a vixen of the night. You got yours and didn’t do a damn thing wrong. Anyone who tries to make you feel like you should be ashamed of your decision or ashamed about the type of fun you felt like having is, frankly, an asshole.
I once read in the comments section of this very website of a girl who said she doesn’t view it as a walk of shame. Instead, she calls it a “got laid parade.” That’s genius. THAT’S the frame of mind we should all have. Why put ourselves down for having sex when we should celebrate it? We did something that literally all of humanity wants and is designed to do. Sex is AWESOME. It helps relieve stress, reduces the risk of heart attacks, AND it counts as exercise. It’s literally one of the greatest, healthiest things you can do for yourself. It helps build up your immune system, and having sex often boosts your libido and makes sex more enjoyable. So, literally, the more sex you have, the better it gets.
Sex is good for your body and mind. And in the real world, no one is going to care who you have sex with, how often, or if you’re doing the walk of shame first thing in the morning. The only reason people really care now is because you live on a college campus and most people don’t have a lot going on in their lives aside from Netflix. The truth is, you’re an adult. You’re completely free to have sex with anyone you want, and no one should be able to tell you otherwise. Why do we feel the need to make women ashamed of living a full, happy life?
I’m not advocating sleeping around. I’m certainly not advocating unsafe sex. But seriously, don’t be ashamed of your sex life. It’s normal, it’s healthy, it’s fun, and we should all be living the sex lives we want to live. Remember that you’re in the got laid parade. Keep your head up, smile, and show the haters that what they have to say doesn’t matter. You’re a boss-ass bitch and nobody can tell you otherwise..