“Aww, you’re sooo cute!”
Rage begins boiling inside me. Steam comes out of my ears like a cartoon character. I’m ready to take off my heels and throw them at this person who tried to give me a compliment. I’m pissed, and it’s all because someone called me cute. Again.
Cute is what you call a kitten, or a baby with a funny saying on its onesie, or a puppy who falls asleep in his water bowl. I’m a twenty-something in a bodycon dress who’s trying to get laid tonight. There’s nothing cute about that.
If you’re a person of smaller stature like me, you probably get called cute all the time, so you understand my frustration. Like me, you spend forty five minutes contouring your face like a Kardashian and another thirty minutes picking out an outfit that gives you the illusion of curves, because underneath the Victoria’s Secret Bombshell bra that turns your A’s into C’s, you have the body of a twelve year old boy, before he starts puberty. You spend all this time (and money) trying to make yourself look like a desirable, sexy woman, but you still can’t escape the compliment (that feels more like an insult) of being called cute.
Guys don’t do a double-take when they see a cute girl walking by. Cute girls don’t stop traffic when they walk across the street. Cute girls might be conventionally attractive, but they slide under the radar, overshadowed by the girls with big boobs and the tall, skinny, model-looking girls. You feel like the leftovers next to all the hot girls. You shouldn’t measure your attractiveness by how many guys want you, but you would be lying if you said you didn’t want to have the attention of every guy in the room. It’s silly and shallow, but looks matter. Being attractive matters. There are times, especially in those pivotal college years, where sometimes all you want is a hot guy to give you once-over and make it his personal mission to see what’s under that Bombshell bra.
There’s worse things people could say about you. Hey, at least you’re not ugly. If you get called cute a lot, that probably means you’re short and thin with a pretty face. There’s nothing inherently bad about that. Out of everyone who plays the genetic lottery, you did better than a lot of people. But you will always, always be called cute, and never hot, and shallow as it may seem, that kind of blows.
Feeling sexy is an important feeling for every woman. We want to feel wanted and lusted over, and we want to make a guy go crazy for us. We want to see it in his eyes — that primal, animalistic look of desire. That doesn’t mean we have to give in, but it’s a good feeling knowing you left a guy speechless with just your appearance.
Being the cute girl is hard. You feel like a plush toy, and all people want to do is pinch your cheeks and pat your head. Forget feeling sexy, you can’t even see an R-rated movie without the attendant checking your ID. Good luck sneaking into bars with that fake ID your big handed down to you. No matter how much makeup you smear on your face, there’s nothing you can do to make yourself grow a extra couple inches or cup sizes. You can barely pass for eighteen, much less twenty-one. And once you turn twenty-one, get used to pulling out your ID multiple times in a bar, because literally no one will believe you when you tell them you’re legal since your feel don’t even touch the footrest on the barstool.
Like I said, it could be worse. Girls with big boobs have back problems. Tall, skinny, model girls have a height requirement when it comes to dating guys. Cute girls may not stop traffic with their looks, but they do alright. With the help of the right outfit, a push-up bra, and a hefty dose of confidence, cute girls can get any guy they want. And with the right guy, he’ll find everything about you sexy. .