Men Are So Predictable That There Is An Actual Scientific Formula On How To Make Them Fall In Love With You — And Here It Is

Men Are So Predictable That There Is An Actual Scientific Formula On How To Make Them Fall In Love With You -- And Here It Is

All too often, “love” goes something like this: swipe right, exchange terrible pickup lines, flirt while drinking solo, exchange phone numbers, meet up for an awkward drink, never hear from the person again. Hitting a little too close to home? Well, luckily for you, science has now determined the exact formula you can use to make a man fall helplessly in love with you. Two out of two times, it’s worked every time.

Psychologist Dr. Aron came up with a little experiment that went like this:

A heterosexual man and woman enter the lab through separate doors. They sit face to face and answer a series of increasingly personal questions. Then they stare silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes. The most tantalizing detail: Six months later, two participants were married.

“Surely that’s a fluke,” you must be thinking. I was skeptical, too, and so was professor Mandy Len Catron, who decided to try this experiment out for herself. Instead of meeting in a lab, the participants met in a bar, and they didn’t stare into each other’s eyes until near the end of their date, when they went on a walk for some privacy. Even when put into a more normal situation that common people are more likely to find themselves in, they still fell in love. It’s still early in their love story, but a future marriage doesn’t seem out of the question.

“So how do I make this happen?” you may ask. Well, I’m no scientist, but give Dr. Aron’s experiment a try the next time “So, what’s the deal with this weather?” doesn’t make sparks fly on your first date. Sit down with a man. Ask each other the following 36 questions. Stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. And maybe, just maybe, he’ll fall in love with you.

Here are Dr. Aron’s 36 questions, as published in The NY Times:

Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

And there you have it.

[via NY Times]

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RecruitmentChairTSM (@TheRecruitChair) is a contributing writer for Total Sorority Move. This current grad student and ex-sorority girl survives solely on Diet Coke and the tears of the pledges she personally victimized. She's a Monica, a Marnie, a Miranda, and a Regina. Her favorite hobbies include drinking $14 bottles of wine and binge-watching season 2 of Grey's Anatomy until she cries. You can send her annoying e-mails at

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