Mailbag: I Don’t Know What To Do With His Balls


Dear Cristina,
I have a weird question. No judgement, okay? I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little while now, and don’t get me wrong, I love our sex life. He’s big, but not too big, always make me come, and he can last forever. Best sex ever. But we’re right around the six month mark and things are starting to get… repetitive. I just want to mix things up a little, and I want to start with paying more attention to his crown jewels. His balls. Problem is, I have no idea what the fuck I’m doing down there. I’ve never played with a man’s undercarriage like that. I’ve heard guys love it because the balls are so sensitive, so what exactly do I do with them?

Ball Newbie

Dear Ball Newbie,
First off, let me just tell you that you’ve found a real gem of a boyfriend, and I think it’s sweet that you want to surprise him with a little ball action. But you’re scared and new to the ball game, and I get it. They can be a bit intimidating.

What completely changed the game for me was when I realized that there’s actually something in it for me. Playing with his balls is a power trip. You literally have him by the balls, the most sensitive spot on his body. You are in complete control of his pleasure, or his pain.

The first thing to remember when playing with his family jewels is that they are always second to his dick. You should still focus most of your attention on his actual penis, and then lightly sprinkle in the ball play.

Also, and this is for your benefit, make sure his entire nether region is CLEAN. Trust me, you don’t want to mess with sweaty balls. Before you decide to venture down south, you need to assess the situation. What was he doing during the day? If that answer involves any physical activity at all, or temperatures were above 75 degrees, postpone the ball action until he’s taken a shower. Basically, unless he was wearing a kilt and sitting with his legs spread in mild weather, you shouldn’t even go down there.

The first step is to start blowing him. You should know how to do that by now, so I’m going to skip to the good part. Remember, you focus should always remain on his dick. If you hands are on his balls, your mouth should be on his dick, and vice versa. There are two basic ways to go about tickling his nuggets.

In Your Mouth

This might get weird, but stay with me. Start with a little open mouth breathing, as a tease. Then lick it on either side, like you’re enjoying a lollipop or a popsicle or basically anything other than balls. Now you’re ready for the big leagues. Lightly begin sucking and slurping, and before you know it, BAM the entire thing is in your mouth. There’s no easing into it, it’s just all in there or nothing. Like a gusher. You probably won’t be able to fit both balls in your mouth, because it might be too much of a mouthful, but you can try. You don’t want to use too much suction, because they’re sensitive. You just want to use enough to remind him that his balls are in your mouth. That visual alone will have him on the edge of his seat.

With Your Hands

If you’re not using your mouth, you want to use your hands. You should start with some gentle rubbing. Don’t give him a prostate exam, but just hold them in a cupping motion. It’s just like a gentle lift and support while you suck his dick. Don’t be too aggressive. If you’re going to squeeze, you need to do it lightly. You don’t want him to be reminded of the time he got kicked in the balls in high school. Use very gentle touch, like you’re handling Faberge eggs.

Throughout the entire BJ, you’re going to want to switch it up. Utilize all of your arsenal. Go from using your hands on his balls and your mouth on his dick to your mouth on his balls and your hands on his dick. Keep switching it up so he doesn’t get too comfortable or see what’s coming next. Look up into his eyes every once in a while and his head just might spin off.

At the end of the day, there’s only so much you can do with balls. You don’t need it to give a good BJ, but it’s nice addition. Ball play is really just the cherry on top of a delicious blowjob sundae.

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Cristina Montemayor

Cristina is a Grandex Writer and Content Manager. She was an intern for over two years before she graduated a semester early to write about college full time, which makes absolutely no sense. She regretfully considers herself a Carrie, but is first and foremost a Rory. She tends to draw strong reactions from people. They are occasionally positive. You can find her in a bar as you're bending down to tie your shoes, drinking Dos XX and drunk crying to Elton John. Email her: (not .com).

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