I have had this debate with so many girls in my life. Do you do “the reach” when you’re on a date with a guy. You know… the reach, the fumble, the dig through your purse looking for your wallet when the bill comes just so you can pretend to offer to pay for your share of the meal. So many girls — so many girls feel obligated to do so.
Me personally? Never. Not once. I find it incredibly awkward to pretend I’m going to pay for a date when I have literally no intention of doing so. I’m not a good actress, and the whole thing feels forced. Plus, if a guy thinks I should be offering, that’s not the kind of guy I want to date. I’m old-fashioned in that, I kind of want to be taken care of. We could easily get into a whole debate right now on why a guy should even “have” to pay for dates because of feminism, and equality and all that… but honestly, fuck political correctness. The guy should pay on a date. Always. And I’ve never felt obligated to pretend I didn’t feel that way.
Of course, every time I poll the room, it seems like the majority of girls are there to make me look like an asshole. “I expect him to pay, but I still want to be polite,” they say. I am fucking polite. When the check comes, I wait for him to grab it and then I say thank you. Boom. Manners. We always inevitably debate back and forth. Girls like me think that if a guy needs me to make that offer, then he shouldn’t have bothered asking to take me out at all. The other girls think I’m a gold-digging bitch.
But frankly, it doesn’t matter what we think. It matters what guys think. So I asked them. Should a girl reach for her wallet on a date as a courtesy? Here’s what they had to say.
So I don’t mean to brag, but I was right. You don’t have to pay, and you don’t have to pretend to pay. You don’t have to be so worried about being likable that you act like you’re going to do something that you’re not going to do. Go forth, my friends, and leave your wallets at home..