Anyone who’s ever gone through formal recruitment knows what it’s like to stand in the doorway of a house and ask yourself, “Is this house I’m about to walk into going to be my home for the next four years?” This could not have been more true for me.
The first house I walked into during fall ended up becoming my forever home, one that I had never heard of before I went through recruitment. Of course, I questioned whether or not I made the right choice, but I dare you to find a girl who never questioned herself and her decisions. If I rushed again, would I get a bid from a sorority in a higher tier? Or would I end up in a sorority below me in the tiers? I pondered these questions as I debated accepting my bid. Over time, though, I’ve learned to accept my social standing as an amazing, but still middle-tier, sorority.
We all know those girls that have the “it” factor. Can someone PLEASE let me know what “it” is? Because after all my years of life I still have no idea. There were girls in my rush group that I just knew were going to become a member of a top tier sorority. There were also girls that I knew were probably going to end up dropping — the tip-off being that they cried hysterically every single time they got their list back in the morning. That being said, I fell somewhere in between the two. I wasn’t hot shit but I wasn’t a sniffling little baby because one or two houses decided not to invite me back.
They say to “trust the process” and I did. I trusted it and I ended up in a home that loved me for my average-ness. I’m a girl with average looks, average smart-ness (case in point), and an average personality in which my ability to make conversation depends on my mood, whether or not I like you, and how drunk I may be. Being in a middle-tier sorority is literally like being the middle child. You’re not the oldest and you’re not the youngest, you’re just there floating around in your own limbo. In Greek Life, a huge number of the middle tier sororities fly under the radar. People have heard of and recognize your letters, but your organization won’t be brought up in the bests or the worsts.
A huge pro is that when your organization DOES do something amazing for the community, it’s talked about by everyone because people still respect you and support you as a middle tier organization. Another pro is that, as the middle child, no one expects you to be spectacular and amazing all the time. You can be average and people just accept it from you to the point where when you actually do something incredible, they appreciate it so much more than if you were just amazing all the time doing another great thing. Who wants all that pressure anyway?
I guess what I’m trying to say that it isn’t terrible being the middle child. It’s good to know that people give two craps about you and what you do, but it’s even better to lay low and pull a fast one on people when they least expect it..